"If you feel that you were off to a
good start but are currently
stalled, you need to admit to
yourself that you have probably
slipped back into your comfort
zone.
More than likely you have been deceiving yourself that you are making progress, but at the same time you are really not getting anywhere.
What you need to do is take action.
Even if it is a very small action.
Nothing you can tell yourself,
nothing you can say to others,
nothing you can think or feel
or imagine is going to get you
out of the mental bog you're
mired in.
The only thing that can rescue you is -
to take that next step.
Maybe you know what that is.
If you know exactly what it is,
DO IT!
If you don't know, or aren't sure,
allow you intuition to guide you.
Do whatever you feel compelled to
do, but do it NOW to get yourself
going again -- even if it means
entering. . .
. . . your discomfort zone.
Dr. Robert Anthony
As your are reading Dr. Robert Anthony’s quote, what thoughts are your thinking?
Recently, I have been living in my comfort zone. It was time to step out and take a risk.
This morning I pushed myself to go on the treadmill and lift weights. At first it was a struggle and after five minutes I started to feel better. After finishing I felt energized and could not understand why I have not been exercising daily.
While on the treadmill I was thinking of what small steps a person could take to step out of their discomfort zone. Following are a few steps you can take:
1. Plan to do something for a short period of time and then take a break. Exercise for only 10 to 20 minutes.
2. Take small steps that you feel comfortable taking.
3. Ask someone to support you. Call a friend and schedule time to walk together and then have a cup of coffee or tea.
4. As Nike says, “Just do it!”
5. Tell yourself you will try something new (i.e. Not eat sugar from 8:00am to 9:00am.) Then reward yourself by bragging about your accomplishments on the Love Yourself – It Matters! Blog.
Now it is your turn to add your thoughts. Let's share our accomplishments with each other. It is easy just click on the comment link below. Helen
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Tuesday, July 8, 2008
Cloud Nine Thoughts
“Change your thoughts and you change your world.”
Norman Vincent Peale
As you are reading the article below think about what makes you happy and sharing your ideas with all of us in the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community. Together we will bring a smile to everyone’s face. It is easy; all you have to do is leave your ideas in the Comment Section below.
Norman Vincent Peale's short message holds the key to happiness. Thinking about what beauty you see and your experiences each day changes your perspective on life.
When we were little we were told that looking at life through Rose Colored Glasses, was not acceptable and we should focus on what was really happening. I now look at that advice as pure garbage.
Why should we be worrying all the time? I rather focus on the opportunities and miracles instead of concentrating or worrying about my challenges.
Following are some Cloud Nine Thoughts and as you are reading them spend time thinking about what other thoughts make you happy. Let’s create a list that will put a smile on our faces.
1. Receiving an email from a friend thanking you for your friendship.
2. Laughing so hard you have to sit down.
3. Having a cup of coffee or tea at an outside café.
4. A hot shower
5. Driving in the car, hearing your favorite song on the radio and singing along.
6. Watching a baby laugh.
7. No lines at the supermarket.
8. Taking a drive on a pretty road.
9. Watching a movie in bed.
10. Hot towels fresh out of the dryer.
11. Playing Power Rangers with your grandson or Barbie with your granddaughter.
12. Seeing a Broadway Play with someone special.
13. Eating at a special restaurant.
14. Giggling with a friend.
15. Finding money in your pocket.
16. Laughing for absolutely no reason.
17. Smiling at yourself in the mirror.
18. Loving yourself.
19. Holding hands with someone you care about.
20. Watching the expression on someone’s face as they open a present they always wanted.
21. Getting out of bed every morning and being grateful for another beautiful day.
22. Hugging someone you really care about.
23. Knowing you had done the right thing, no matter what other people think.
Now it is your turn to add your thoughts. Let's make this the biggest cloud nine list ever. List the things that make you happy. It is easy just click on the Comment Section below. I can’t wait to read them. Helen
Norman Vincent Peale
As you are reading the article below think about what makes you happy and sharing your ideas with all of us in the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community. Together we will bring a smile to everyone’s face. It is easy; all you have to do is leave your ideas in the Comment Section below.
Norman Vincent Peale's short message holds the key to happiness. Thinking about what beauty you see and your experiences each day changes your perspective on life.
When we were little we were told that looking at life through Rose Colored Glasses, was not acceptable and we should focus on what was really happening. I now look at that advice as pure garbage.
Why should we be worrying all the time? I rather focus on the opportunities and miracles instead of concentrating or worrying about my challenges.
Following are some Cloud Nine Thoughts and as you are reading them spend time thinking about what other thoughts make you happy. Let’s create a list that will put a smile on our faces.
1. Receiving an email from a friend thanking you for your friendship.
2. Laughing so hard you have to sit down.
3. Having a cup of coffee or tea at an outside café.
4. A hot shower
5. Driving in the car, hearing your favorite song on the radio and singing along.
6. Watching a baby laugh.
7. No lines at the supermarket.
8. Taking a drive on a pretty road.
9. Watching a movie in bed.
10. Hot towels fresh out of the dryer.
11. Playing Power Rangers with your grandson or Barbie with your granddaughter.
12. Seeing a Broadway Play with someone special.
13. Eating at a special restaurant.
14. Giggling with a friend.
15. Finding money in your pocket.
16. Laughing for absolutely no reason.
17. Smiling at yourself in the mirror.
18. Loving yourself.
19. Holding hands with someone you care about.
20. Watching the expression on someone’s face as they open a present they always wanted.
21. Getting out of bed every morning and being grateful for another beautiful day.
22. Hugging someone you really care about.
23. Knowing you had done the right thing, no matter what other people think.
Now it is your turn to add your thoughts. Let's make this the biggest cloud nine list ever. List the things that make you happy. It is easy just click on the Comment Section below. I can’t wait to read them. Helen
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone
“Being myself
includes taking risks with myself,
taking risks on new behavior,
trying new ways of ‘being myself,”
so that I can see who it is
I want to be.”
Hugh Prather, American writer
What a great way of looking at life. Taking risks and doing something outside of your comfort zone creates new miracles in your life and lets you see who you want to be.
Every time I am invited to a party my old tapes surface and remind me I shouldn’t go to the party because I will want to eat everything in sight. My first reaction is to call the host and tell them I can’t come to the party. Before picking up the phone I remind myself how many times I have gone to a party and there was always something for me to eat. Making sure I feel safe, I always call the host and ask about the food choices and if there is nothing for me to eat I ask if I can bring my own food. All my friends know my eating habits and have food for me to eat.
Why do I make myself crazy instead of looking for ways to leave my comfort zone? It is a human condition, which I am sorry to say we all have. We let our fears sometimes rule our lives. Listening to our fears gives us permission not to take a risk.
On the other hand, taking a risk allows all new opportunities to materialize and we start living life from a different prospective. If I allowed myself not to go to the party I would have probably stayed home, felt lonely and ate everything in sight because I was unhappy.
Going to the party I meet new people, saw old friends and eat a healthy meal. Isn’t that better than giving into my fears?
While at a party I use the following tools:
• Talk to three people before I look at the food.
• Take a plate and decide what I am going to eat before taking any food.
• Sit with a group of people while I am eating.
• NEVER go back for seconds.
• Drink a cup of tea or coffee after I finish eating.
• Talk to three new people
• Leave early.
When I get home I do something nice for myself. Rewarding myself for stepping out of my comfort zone and eating healthy validates who I am.
What is your secret for giving yourself permission to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone? Leave a comment telling me your secret and together we will create a list of tools we can use to Step Out of our Comfort Zone. Helen
includes taking risks with myself,
taking risks on new behavior,
trying new ways of ‘being myself,”
so that I can see who it is
I want to be.”
Hugh Prather, American writer
What a great way of looking at life. Taking risks and doing something outside of your comfort zone creates new miracles in your life and lets you see who you want to be.
Every time I am invited to a party my old tapes surface and remind me I shouldn’t go to the party because I will want to eat everything in sight. My first reaction is to call the host and tell them I can’t come to the party. Before picking up the phone I remind myself how many times I have gone to a party and there was always something for me to eat. Making sure I feel safe, I always call the host and ask about the food choices and if there is nothing for me to eat I ask if I can bring my own food. All my friends know my eating habits and have food for me to eat.
Why do I make myself crazy instead of looking for ways to leave my comfort zone? It is a human condition, which I am sorry to say we all have. We let our fears sometimes rule our lives. Listening to our fears gives us permission not to take a risk.
On the other hand, taking a risk allows all new opportunities to materialize and we start living life from a different prospective. If I allowed myself not to go to the party I would have probably stayed home, felt lonely and ate everything in sight because I was unhappy.
Going to the party I meet new people, saw old friends and eat a healthy meal. Isn’t that better than giving into my fears?
While at a party I use the following tools:
• Talk to three people before I look at the food.
• Take a plate and decide what I am going to eat before taking any food.
• Sit with a group of people while I am eating.
• NEVER go back for seconds.
• Drink a cup of tea or coffee after I finish eating.
• Talk to three new people
• Leave early.
When I get home I do something nice for myself. Rewarding myself for stepping out of my comfort zone and eating healthy validates who I am.
What is your secret for giving yourself permission to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone? Leave a comment telling me your secret and together we will create a list of tools we can use to Step Out of our Comfort Zone. Helen
Monday, June 30, 2008
Pet Stories
Do you have a pet? I have two cats and their names are Alfie, a black cat with a white patch on his stomach, and Alice, who is white and grey with a pink nose. They have different personalities. Alfie is very loving and Alice considers herself a princess.
Alfie and Alice are teaching me how to love and accept love unconditionally. It has always been easier for me to give and hard to receive. I would love to give someone a gift and watch them get excited when they opened the present. On the other hand, when someone gave me a present I felt embarrassed.
One day Alice was sitting on my desk as I was writing my blog and just looking at me with love in her eyes (my interpretation). I realized how uncomfortable I felt having her stare at me. What I wanted to do was pet her and stop feeling uncomfortable. Instead I made myself sit there and enjoy the moment.
I was out to dinner with a few friends and I was telling them how uncomfortable I felt when Alice was staring at me with love in her eyes. Others at the table started talking about their pets and how special they are in their lives. Some of the stories are as follows:
• Jay was taking a hike in the park with his dog. Suddenly he tripped over a tree branch and fell. His dog, Spike, laid down next to him and started to bark until someone came running to see what was happening. The man checked to see if Jay was alright and called 911. Jay had broken his ankle and now is perfectly fine. Spike is Jay’s hero.
• Chris told us how her cat, Sadie, always sits on the floor next to her while she is working on the computer. Chris is a technical writer and sometimes experiences writers block. Sadie being there gives her moral support to continue working.
When did you experience unconditional love from your pet? Sharing your stories now may help brighten someone's day and at the same time put a smile on your face. I am looking forward to reading the stories. Helen
Alfie and Alice are teaching me how to love and accept love unconditionally. It has always been easier for me to give and hard to receive. I would love to give someone a gift and watch them get excited when they opened the present. On the other hand, when someone gave me a present I felt embarrassed.
One day Alice was sitting on my desk as I was writing my blog and just looking at me with love in her eyes (my interpretation). I realized how uncomfortable I felt having her stare at me. What I wanted to do was pet her and stop feeling uncomfortable. Instead I made myself sit there and enjoy the moment.
I was out to dinner with a few friends and I was telling them how uncomfortable I felt when Alice was staring at me with love in her eyes. Others at the table started talking about their pets and how special they are in their lives. Some of the stories are as follows:
• Jay was taking a hike in the park with his dog. Suddenly he tripped over a tree branch and fell. His dog, Spike, laid down next to him and started to bark until someone came running to see what was happening. The man checked to see if Jay was alright and called 911. Jay had broken his ankle and now is perfectly fine. Spike is Jay’s hero.
• Chris told us how her cat, Sadie, always sits on the floor next to her while she is working on the computer. Chris is a technical writer and sometimes experiences writers block. Sadie being there gives her moral support to continue working.
When did you experience unconditional love from your pet? Sharing your stories now may help brighten someone's day and at the same time put a smile on your face. I am looking forward to reading the stories. Helen
Monday, June 23, 2008
Changing Your Thoughts in an Instant
Are you constantly defending yourself against your thoughts? Most of us have these types of conversations with ourselves on a daily basis. This is often called stress!
We are having a good time and then suddenly a thought pops in our head that things are not working out. Our world changes in an instant.
Yesterday I spent the day with a friend, laughing and enjoying myself. On the way home I started thinking, “My life is horrible because my husband Bob is gone.” From that moment on, I kept thinking how hard my life was instead of how much fun I had during the day.
After feeling sorry for myself for a few hours, made a decision that I had the power to change my attitude. Following are the steps I took to take care of myself:
• Made myself a cup of tea.
• Asked the Universe to grant me peace in allowing myself to be.
• Wrote in my “Happiness Journal” about the day I spent with my friend.
• Called a friend and made plans to spend a day at the beach.
• Watched the Pre-Trial Olympics
• Went to bed at a reasonable hour.
• Exercised in morning.
What a beautiful gift we receive each day, the power to take care of ourselves. Now is your turn to change your thoughts in an instant. What are you going to do nice for yourself today? Helen
We are having a good time and then suddenly a thought pops in our head that things are not working out. Our world changes in an instant.
Yesterday I spent the day with a friend, laughing and enjoying myself. On the way home I started thinking, “My life is horrible because my husband Bob is gone.” From that moment on, I kept thinking how hard my life was instead of how much fun I had during the day.
After feeling sorry for myself for a few hours, made a decision that I had the power to change my attitude. Following are the steps I took to take care of myself:
• Made myself a cup of tea.
• Asked the Universe to grant me peace in allowing myself to be.
• Wrote in my “Happiness Journal” about the day I spent with my friend.
• Called a friend and made plans to spend a day at the beach.
• Watched the Pre-Trial Olympics
• Went to bed at a reasonable hour.
• Exercised in morning.
What a beautiful gift we receive each day, the power to take care of ourselves. Now is your turn to change your thoughts in an instant. What are you going to do nice for yourself today? Helen
Friday, June 20, 2008
Focusing On What You Have
Comparing my insides to other people's outsides causes me problems.
--Joan Rohde
Isn’t it amazing how sometimes you think other people have it better than me? I remember passing a beautiful home and thinking, “Boy those people must be happy they have such a beautiful home.” As it turned out a few months later, I met the owners of the house at a party and to my surprise they both seemed so unhappy. The husband was nasty and the wife had such low self-esteem. You never know!
The secret is to acknowledge what you have instead of thinking other people have it better than you. Easier said than done!
Paula, name changed, had a great job and beautiful home. She never appreciated what she had, only focused on what she did not have. Paula thought everyone’s life was better and easier than hers.
We started working together and the first exercise I had Paula do was to look in the mirror every morning and say,”Life is good.” She had a hard time repeating the words. About a month into the process she was looking into the mirror and started to feel her life was getting better. What a great moment!
Continuing the process every morning it became easier and easier. Once Paula started enjoying her life, I had her acknowledge people for their kindness and journal each night what she enjoyed about her life. As time went on Paula woke up each morning and thanked the Universe for the special gifts she was receiving everyday.
Today Paula lives life from a different perspective and looks for the goodness in everything instead of what is missing.
Now is your turn to change your perspective. Plan on looking in the mirror every morning and saying, “Life is good.” Please let me know what special gifts you start receiving.
Helen
--Joan Rohde
Isn’t it amazing how sometimes you think other people have it better than me? I remember passing a beautiful home and thinking, “Boy those people must be happy they have such a beautiful home.” As it turned out a few months later, I met the owners of the house at a party and to my surprise they both seemed so unhappy. The husband was nasty and the wife had such low self-esteem. You never know!
The secret is to acknowledge what you have instead of thinking other people have it better than you. Easier said than done!
Paula, name changed, had a great job and beautiful home. She never appreciated what she had, only focused on what she did not have. Paula thought everyone’s life was better and easier than hers.
We started working together and the first exercise I had Paula do was to look in the mirror every morning and say,”Life is good.” She had a hard time repeating the words. About a month into the process she was looking into the mirror and started to feel her life was getting better. What a great moment!
Continuing the process every morning it became easier and easier. Once Paula started enjoying her life, I had her acknowledge people for their kindness and journal each night what she enjoyed about her life. As time went on Paula woke up each morning and thanked the Universe for the special gifts she was receiving everyday.
Today Paula lives life from a different perspective and looks for the goodness in everything instead of what is missing.
Now is your turn to change your perspective. Plan on looking in the mirror every morning and saying, “Life is good.” Please let me know what special gifts you start receiving.
Helen
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Finding Support
Someone Is Always There for You
Stressful situations and trying times
are some of the realities of life.
When you experience them,
you may think they’ll never leave.
But even the most difficult times come and go,
and the strength you need to meet the situation
will be there for you in the helping hand
of a friend,in the compassion of a loved one
who cares,and in the listening ear of someone who knows
what you’re going through.
All you have to do is look up and reach out,
and someone will be there to share your troubles.
~ Linda E. Knight
Sometimes we think we are alone in this world and have to face our challenges all by ourselves. I learned people are there for you and feel honored when you reach out to them.
Terri, name changed, has health problems and her doctor advice was to lose 50 pounds. When she called me she was in despair and did not know what to do. Her first step was to start living in the moment and not think about how she would lose the weight in two weeks.
Together we devised a simple plan she felt comfortable putting into action. Following are the steps Terri implemented:
• Scheduled a family meeting and told everyone she wanted to lose weight and needed their help. They agreed to help and also wanted to follow her weight management plan.
• Cleaned out the kitchen cabinets and got rid of all the junk food. Everyone pitched in and made the job easier.
• Planned healthy meals with her family.
• Walked with her husband after dinner every evening.
• Rewarded herself everyday if she ate healthy and exercised. Terri’s reward was to take a long hot bath before going to bed.
Following this simple plan Terri started losing weight and within a year she was able to lose the 50 pounds and her health started improving. Not only did Terri lose weight her husband and children also lost their extra pounds.
Reaching out for help enabled Terri to receive the support and love she needed to achieve her goal. Not only was she supported her husband and children also received support and love as they were working together.
Now is your turn. Who can you ask today to support you? Remember all you have to do is reach out, and someone will be there to support you.
Stressful situations and trying times
are some of the realities of life.
When you experience them,
you may think they’ll never leave.
But even the most difficult times come and go,
and the strength you need to meet the situation
will be there for you in the helping hand
of a friend,in the compassion of a loved one
who cares,and in the listening ear of someone who knows
what you’re going through.
All you have to do is look up and reach out,
and someone will be there to share your troubles.
~ Linda E. Knight
Sometimes we think we are alone in this world and have to face our challenges all by ourselves. I learned people are there for you and feel honored when you reach out to them.
Terri, name changed, has health problems and her doctor advice was to lose 50 pounds. When she called me she was in despair and did not know what to do. Her first step was to start living in the moment and not think about how she would lose the weight in two weeks.
Together we devised a simple plan she felt comfortable putting into action. Following are the steps Terri implemented:
• Scheduled a family meeting and told everyone she wanted to lose weight and needed their help. They agreed to help and also wanted to follow her weight management plan.
• Cleaned out the kitchen cabinets and got rid of all the junk food. Everyone pitched in and made the job easier.
• Planned healthy meals with her family.
• Walked with her husband after dinner every evening.
• Rewarded herself everyday if she ate healthy and exercised. Terri’s reward was to take a long hot bath before going to bed.
Following this simple plan Terri started losing weight and within a year she was able to lose the 50 pounds and her health started improving. Not only did Terri lose weight her husband and children also lost their extra pounds.
Reaching out for help enabled Terri to receive the support and love she needed to achieve her goal. Not only was she supported her husband and children also received support and love as they were working together.
Now is your turn. Who can you ask today to support you? Remember all you have to do is reach out, and someone will be there to support you.
Friday, June 13, 2008
New Possibilities
“No matter what our age or condition,
there are still untapped possibilities within us
and new beauty waiting to be born.”
Dale E Turner
Dale E. Turner’s gives us hope to continue our journey of looking for new possibilities in our lives. What encouragement!
We sometimes think our lives will never change then suddenly a miracle happens and new opportunities materializes. Let’s take for example you have been trying to lose weight and instead of losing you start gaining. Talking to a friend about your problem he suggests you both start eating healthy and join a gym together. Not only will you spend time together, support each other and at the same time lose weight. Opportunities do materialize when we look for them.
Jackie, name changed, was in a real slump and worrying about everything, there was no joy in her life. Her ex-husband suggested she call a coach and gave her my name and phone number.
Jackie called and told me everything that was going wrong in her life. After listening for awhile and acknowledging her for what was happening, I asked, “What is going right in your life?” There was dead silence and in a whisper she said, “I don’t know.”
I explained how sometimes we only focus on what is not working in our lives and forget to acknowledge what miracles we were receiving. The blessing was she could change her thinking.
Jackie wanted to start changing her attitude right away. She took the steps below which helped changed her thinking. Today she has a smile on her face and is living life from a different perspective. Another miracle happened her whole family is now happier and enjoying each other.
Some of the steps Jackie took to change her thinking:
1. Shared with her husband before getting out of bed how much she loved him and why he made her happy. He also shared his love for her and how she made him happy. Their relationship became loving and supportive.
2. Woke her children up with a smile on her face. Smiling is contagious and when they saw their mom they also smilled. What a great way to start the day, smiling.
3. Kept her Possibilities Journal with her at all times and wrote down different opportunities as they were happening. This way she was reminded what possibilities were materializing in her life.
4. At dinner the whole family shared at least one thing that made them happy during the day. By sharing with each other gave everyone an opportunity to acknowledge what was happening in their lives.
5. Took time for herself, Jackie felt this was the best part of her day. By spending time alone she was giving herself the gift of self-kindness.
Now is your opportunity to acknowledge the new possibilities that are materializing in your life. The secret for happiness is acknowledging who you are and the miracles happening in your life. Today is a new day and a great opportunity to start new rituals. Enjoy!
there are still untapped possibilities within us
and new beauty waiting to be born.”
Dale E Turner
Dale E. Turner’s gives us hope to continue our journey of looking for new possibilities in our lives. What encouragement!
We sometimes think our lives will never change then suddenly a miracle happens and new opportunities materializes. Let’s take for example you have been trying to lose weight and instead of losing you start gaining. Talking to a friend about your problem he suggests you both start eating healthy and join a gym together. Not only will you spend time together, support each other and at the same time lose weight. Opportunities do materialize when we look for them.
Jackie, name changed, was in a real slump and worrying about everything, there was no joy in her life. Her ex-husband suggested she call a coach and gave her my name and phone number.
Jackie called and told me everything that was going wrong in her life. After listening for awhile and acknowledging her for what was happening, I asked, “What is going right in your life?” There was dead silence and in a whisper she said, “I don’t know.”
I explained how sometimes we only focus on what is not working in our lives and forget to acknowledge what miracles we were receiving. The blessing was she could change her thinking.
Jackie wanted to start changing her attitude right away. She took the steps below which helped changed her thinking. Today she has a smile on her face and is living life from a different perspective. Another miracle happened her whole family is now happier and enjoying each other.
Some of the steps Jackie took to change her thinking:
1. Shared with her husband before getting out of bed how much she loved him and why he made her happy. He also shared his love for her and how she made him happy. Their relationship became loving and supportive.
2. Woke her children up with a smile on her face. Smiling is contagious and when they saw their mom they also smilled. What a great way to start the day, smiling.
3. Kept her Possibilities Journal with her at all times and wrote down different opportunities as they were happening. This way she was reminded what possibilities were materializing in her life.
4. At dinner the whole family shared at least one thing that made them happy during the day. By sharing with each other gave everyone an opportunity to acknowledge what was happening in their lives.
5. Took time for herself, Jackie felt this was the best part of her day. By spending time alone she was giving herself the gift of self-kindness.
Now is your opportunity to acknowledge the new possibilities that are materializing in your life. The secret for happiness is acknowledging who you are and the miracles happening in your life. Today is a new day and a great opportunity to start new rituals. Enjoy!
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Beauty in the World
CAPTURE THE MOMENT
By Helen Burton
Looking outside my office window I see the birds and chipmunks. The bird in front of my window is a finch and his color is beautiful. I love the vibrant yellow and black markings. There is another finch at another feeder whose colors look faded. What a contrast.
The chipmunks are running on the ground and they are so cute. There are two of them, they are chasing each other and seem to be having a good time.
Sitting on my desk and looking out the window is my cat Alfie. His tail is wagging and he is just watching.
I feel complete and happy just watching the different birds at the feeders and how simple life can be. Sometimes we make life so hard and try to make things happen. If we just sit back and look around us we will see beauty.
Thank you, Mother Nature for creating beauty in the world.
We also have the opportunity to create beauty in our lives. Take a moment and think about the last time you did something nice for yourself or someone else. Come on it can’t be that hard!
I was working with a client and she had a hard time losing weight. Susan (name changed) kept complaining she was a failure and would never lose weight. Her weekly assignment was to do something nice for herself everyday. It took Susan three weeks to do something nice for herself. She finally went to the store and bought hand cream. While putting on the hand cream she continually said out loud, “I am taking care of myself.” Eventually it became easier to take care of herself. She started eating healthier, exercising and treating herself with kindness. Miracles happened, she started losing weight and realized she was a beautiful person.
With the renew self-confidence Susan started working at a Women’s Center playing with abused children. What a beautiful gift she is giving to the World.
Now it is your turn to share the beauty you create in the world with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community Helen
By Helen Burton
Looking outside my office window I see the birds and chipmunks. The bird in front of my window is a finch and his color is beautiful. I love the vibrant yellow and black markings. There is another finch at another feeder whose colors look faded. What a contrast.
The chipmunks are running on the ground and they are so cute. There are two of them, they are chasing each other and seem to be having a good time.
Sitting on my desk and looking out the window is my cat Alfie. His tail is wagging and he is just watching.
I feel complete and happy just watching the different birds at the feeders and how simple life can be. Sometimes we make life so hard and try to make things happen. If we just sit back and look around us we will see beauty.
Thank you, Mother Nature for creating beauty in the world.
We also have the opportunity to create beauty in our lives. Take a moment and think about the last time you did something nice for yourself or someone else. Come on it can’t be that hard!
I was working with a client and she had a hard time losing weight. Susan (name changed) kept complaining she was a failure and would never lose weight. Her weekly assignment was to do something nice for herself everyday. It took Susan three weeks to do something nice for herself. She finally went to the store and bought hand cream. While putting on the hand cream she continually said out loud, “I am taking care of myself.” Eventually it became easier to take care of herself. She started eating healthier, exercising and treating herself with kindness. Miracles happened, she started losing weight and realized she was a beautiful person.
With the renew self-confidence Susan started working at a Women’s Center playing with abused children. What a beautiful gift she is giving to the World.
Now it is your turn to share the beauty you create in the world with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community Helen
Monday, June 9, 2008
Count Your Blessings
When you arise in the morning,
think what a precious privilege
it is to be alive –
to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love
Marcus Aurelius
What a beautiful concept to thank the Universe in the morning for the precious privilege of being alive instead of focusing on your problems or what you have to do. Not only feel thankful, you will want to start your day.
Being grateful for what you have changes your perspective on life. I find it gives us permission to look for opportunities and be creative.
Joe, a client, was complaining how hard his life was and everything was going wrong. He was saying affirmations each morning, trying to think positively before getting out of bed and nothing was working. I explained to Joe, sometimes affirmations and forcing yourself to think positively was just an exercise and did not give you actual proof that things were going to be different. The main ingredient for transformation was missing, action and proof. Another tool he could use was to start a “Happiness Journal” and write from one to five things daily that made him happy the day before. Joe agreed to try the exercise. That was a month ago and for the past month every morning before getting out of bed he writes in his “Happiness Journal.” At first Joe found it quite difficult and as time went on it became easier and easier. Now in the morning he looks forward to the exercise.
What changed was Joe saw proof that his was life was good and he was happy. By writing in the journal he was focusing on actual experiences and not forcing himself to feel happy.
Following are some experiences that could make you happy during the day:
• Receiving a letter from the IRS that you will receive your economic stimulus payment in the mail within the week.
• Your grandson calls to invite you to a movie.
• Taking a walk in the woods seeing the birds, chipmunks and beautiful flowers.
• Coming home from a weekend away you find the air conditioner is not working. Checking the circuit breakers you realize the air conditioner circuit breaker was off. Fixing the problem your house was cool within a couple of hours.
• Did not eat junk food for one whole day.
The list can go on and on. What is important you acknowledge the beautiful things happening in your life and realize life is good.
Now is your chance to start a “Happiness Journal,” write between one and five things daily that made you happy the day before. Enjoy!!
think what a precious privilege
it is to be alive –
to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love
Marcus Aurelius
What a beautiful concept to thank the Universe in the morning for the precious privilege of being alive instead of focusing on your problems or what you have to do. Not only feel thankful, you will want to start your day.
Being grateful for what you have changes your perspective on life. I find it gives us permission to look for opportunities and be creative.
Joe, a client, was complaining how hard his life was and everything was going wrong. He was saying affirmations each morning, trying to think positively before getting out of bed and nothing was working. I explained to Joe, sometimes affirmations and forcing yourself to think positively was just an exercise and did not give you actual proof that things were going to be different. The main ingredient for transformation was missing, action and proof. Another tool he could use was to start a “Happiness Journal” and write from one to five things daily that made him happy the day before. Joe agreed to try the exercise. That was a month ago and for the past month every morning before getting out of bed he writes in his “Happiness Journal.” At first Joe found it quite difficult and as time went on it became easier and easier. Now in the morning he looks forward to the exercise.
What changed was Joe saw proof that his was life was good and he was happy. By writing in the journal he was focusing on actual experiences and not forcing himself to feel happy.
Following are some experiences that could make you happy during the day:
• Receiving a letter from the IRS that you will receive your economic stimulus payment in the mail within the week.
• Your grandson calls to invite you to a movie.
• Taking a walk in the woods seeing the birds, chipmunks and beautiful flowers.
• Coming home from a weekend away you find the air conditioner is not working. Checking the circuit breakers you realize the air conditioner circuit breaker was off. Fixing the problem your house was cool within a couple of hours.
• Did not eat junk food for one whole day.
The list can go on and on. What is important you acknowledge the beautiful things happening in your life and realize life is good.
Now is your chance to start a “Happiness Journal,” write between one and five things daily that made you happy the day before. Enjoy!!
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Solutions for Enjoying the Beach
Are you thinking, “No way will I wear a bathing suit this summer and go to the beach.” You are not alone! There are so many people who have this thought and blame themselves for not losing the weight over the winter so they can wear a bathing suit.
Thinking this way is living in the problem instead of the solution. You might be thinking there is NO solution to this problem. Let’s spend some time brainstorming ways of enjoying time at the beach.
1. Buy a bathing suit that feels comfortable and a pretty cover-up.
2. Go to the beach early in the morning or later in the day when it is less crowded. It is usually cooler and you won’t feel as uncomfortable.
3. While on the beach take a mini-vacation for the day by swimming in the ocean, relaxing, reading a good book and enjoying yourself. You deserve it!
3. Meet a friend at the beach and have lunch at an outside café.
4. Take a walk on the beach at sundown so you don’t have to wear a bathing suit.
The most important thing to remember is that you are a very special person. Be sure to take precautions when sitting in the sun. Enjoy!
I am available to support you in anyway. You can contact me by leaving a comment on this blog and I will get back to you. Enjoy your days at the beach! Helen
Thinking this way is living in the problem instead of the solution. You might be thinking there is NO solution to this problem. Let’s spend some time brainstorming ways of enjoying time at the beach.
1. Buy a bathing suit that feels comfortable and a pretty cover-up.
2. Go to the beach early in the morning or later in the day when it is less crowded. It is usually cooler and you won’t feel as uncomfortable.
3. While on the beach take a mini-vacation for the day by swimming in the ocean, relaxing, reading a good book and enjoying yourself. You deserve it!
3. Meet a friend at the beach and have lunch at an outside café.
4. Take a walk on the beach at sundown so you don’t have to wear a bathing suit.
The most important thing to remember is that you are a very special person. Be sure to take precautions when sitting in the sun. Enjoy!
I am available to support you in anyway. You can contact me by leaving a comment on this blog and I will get back to you. Enjoy your days at the beach! Helen
Thursday, May 22, 2008
Thinking Creates Happiness
Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so.
--Shakespeare
Look for the Good
Life is an interpretive experience. What happens is less important than how we respond to our circumstances. An intense stimulus that some people report as pain others report as pleasure. It is we who decide what the interpretation will be.
Are you a "good finder"? A recent study of the country's millionaires showed that the most common trait they all shared was the ability to discover good in any situation. This trait is also common in "triumphant survivors" - those individuals who overcome adversity and emerge strengthened and renewed.
A sincere spiritual seeker suffering from a chronic illness wondered, "Why haven't my prayers been answered?" One day, in deep meditation the reply came: "Look for the good in your situation and you will see that the answer has already been provided." Suddenly this woman realized that her crisis provided a wonderful opportunity. She embarked on a program of nutrition, exercise, and yoga, which led to a dramatic improvement in the quality of her life.
Abraham Lincoln once said, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." Your state of mind is up to you. Choose now to look for the good.
Thought from Hazelton
What a powerful message. Lately, most of the inspirational messages passing thru my inbox is about how our thinking plays a role in creating peace and happiness in our lives.
Carole was thinking how lonely she was and her husband never gave her any type of support. She used the food to feel better and then was upset because the numbers on the scale were going up instead of down.
After one of our coaching sessions, Carole realized she was making herself feel like a victim instead of taking the action to turn her life around. We discussed small steps she could take to feel peace and love instead of resentment. Carole took a stand and started making small changes in her life. A miracle happened and slowly her thinking and life changed. Today she feels love for herself and others.
Some action steps Carole took:
1. Gave her husband a big hug when he walked in the door. What usually happened he hugged her back which made them both happy.
2. Made plans to take a long weekend instead of waiting for her husband to make them. They both got to go away and enjoy each other.
3. Did something nice for herself each day. Making time for herself made her feel special.
What power and strength we have within ourselves to simply change our thinking and behavior and find the good in everything.
Please share your experiences with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community. Together we will make our lives and world a better place to live.
--Shakespeare
Look for the Good
Life is an interpretive experience. What happens is less important than how we respond to our circumstances. An intense stimulus that some people report as pain others report as pleasure. It is we who decide what the interpretation will be.
Are you a "good finder"? A recent study of the country's millionaires showed that the most common trait they all shared was the ability to discover good in any situation. This trait is also common in "triumphant survivors" - those individuals who overcome adversity and emerge strengthened and renewed.
A sincere spiritual seeker suffering from a chronic illness wondered, "Why haven't my prayers been answered?" One day, in deep meditation the reply came: "Look for the good in your situation and you will see that the answer has already been provided." Suddenly this woman realized that her crisis provided a wonderful opportunity. She embarked on a program of nutrition, exercise, and yoga, which led to a dramatic improvement in the quality of her life.
Abraham Lincoln once said, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." Your state of mind is up to you. Choose now to look for the good.
Thought from Hazelton
What a powerful message. Lately, most of the inspirational messages passing thru my inbox is about how our thinking plays a role in creating peace and happiness in our lives.
Carole was thinking how lonely she was and her husband never gave her any type of support. She used the food to feel better and then was upset because the numbers on the scale were going up instead of down.
After one of our coaching sessions, Carole realized she was making herself feel like a victim instead of taking the action to turn her life around. We discussed small steps she could take to feel peace and love instead of resentment. Carole took a stand and started making small changes in her life. A miracle happened and slowly her thinking and life changed. Today she feels love for herself and others.
Some action steps Carole took:
1. Gave her husband a big hug when he walked in the door. What usually happened he hugged her back which made them both happy.
2. Made plans to take a long weekend instead of waiting for her husband to make them. They both got to go away and enjoy each other.
3. Did something nice for herself each day. Making time for herself made her feel special.
What power and strength we have within ourselves to simply change our thinking and behavior and find the good in everything.
Please share your experiences with the Love Yourself – It Matters Community. Together we will make our lives and world a better place to live.
Tuesday, May 20, 2008
Monday Morning Action Call
Start Your Week Out Right
With an Energizing Monday Morning Call!
Do you find yourself going around in circles and not getting anywhere? Do you feel like you are riding a merry-go-round to nowhere? What are your goals? What have you done to reach them lately? Making a list is only the first step. You must take action to reach your goals.
Support and accountability are important motivators toward taking the actions that enable you to reach the goals you’ve set for yourself.
Take advantage of the special offer below to get off your unfulfilling merry-go-round of life and start your journey of achievement. Learn how to Make Your Dreams Come True!
Wake-Up Action Call
Starting Monday, June 9, 2008
7:30 am – 8:00 am (Eastern)
Cost: $69/month
(Special rate of $49 if you register by May 31, 2008)
(Includes: Weekly Calls, Group E-mail Support and Coaching from Helen)
You will not only benefit from the support you get from others. You will experience a sense of accomplishment and well-being from supporting others and watching their progress. And, best of all, you will make progress on your personal and professional journey.
RSVP: Take the first step NOW. Sign up today and begin to discover who you are and how to stop riding the merry-go-round to no where.
Simply email helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net to sign up
and you will receive the details.
Love Yourself Coaching
Helen J. Burton, CEC, ACC The Love Yourself Coach
With an Energizing Monday Morning Call!
Do you find yourself going around in circles and not getting anywhere? Do you feel like you are riding a merry-go-round to nowhere? What are your goals? What have you done to reach them lately? Making a list is only the first step. You must take action to reach your goals.
Support and accountability are important motivators toward taking the actions that enable you to reach the goals you’ve set for yourself.
Take advantage of the special offer below to get off your unfulfilling merry-go-round of life and start your journey of achievement. Learn how to Make Your Dreams Come True!
Wake-Up Action Call
Starting Monday, June 9, 2008
7:30 am – 8:00 am (Eastern)
Cost: $69/month
(Special rate of $49 if you register by May 31, 2008)
(Includes: Weekly Calls, Group E-mail Support and Coaching from Helen)
You will not only benefit from the support you get from others. You will experience a sense of accomplishment and well-being from supporting others and watching their progress. And, best of all, you will make progress on your personal and professional journey.
RSVP: Take the first step NOW. Sign up today and begin to discover who you are and how to stop riding the merry-go-round to no where.
Simply email helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net to sign up
and you will receive the details.
Love Yourself Coaching
Helen J. Burton, CEC, ACC The Love Yourself Coach
Monday, May 19, 2008
You are the Power of Your World
“You are the only person who thinks in your mind.
You are the power and authority of your world.
…You get to have whatever you choice to think.”Louise Hay
What a powerful way of thinking. This type of thinking gives you control of your world. Thinking positive and loving thoughts creates a beautiful world for you.
Jane was living her life and feeling something was missing. She wanted to lose weight, find a loving relationship and make more money. If you asked Linda to describe her life in ten words or less she would say, “Life is hard and I never get what I want.”
How many of you have the same response? It is often suggested to focus on the good things in your life and things will change. What a great idea and hard to do. As humans we are programmed to want more instead of appreciate what we have.
Have you ever thought when I get that new job life will be great? Then when you get that new job you start thinking, “I need to lose 10 pounds?” A lot of us are action focused and feel like failures when we are not wanting something or working towards it.
There is nothing wrong with wanting more, you are making your life better. The only problem being sometimes you are never satisfied and keep thinking life will be better when reaching yet another goal. How can you achieve the feeling of satisfaction and at the same time continue working on your goals?
As Louise Hay’s says, “You are the power and authority of your world.” Below are some simple steps you can take to get started.
• Write a list of what is working in your life.
• Take one step everyday towards your goal. Example: Take a 10 minute fast pace walk before dinner.
• Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself, “I am the best I can be right now.”
I invite you to let the Get Off the Diet Merry-Go-Round Community know what other steps we can take to create a beautiful world for ourselves.
You are the power and authority of your world.
…You get to have whatever you choice to think.”Louise Hay
What a powerful way of thinking. This type of thinking gives you control of your world. Thinking positive and loving thoughts creates a beautiful world for you.
Jane was living her life and feeling something was missing. She wanted to lose weight, find a loving relationship and make more money. If you asked Linda to describe her life in ten words or less she would say, “Life is hard and I never get what I want.”
How many of you have the same response? It is often suggested to focus on the good things in your life and things will change. What a great idea and hard to do. As humans we are programmed to want more instead of appreciate what we have.
Have you ever thought when I get that new job life will be great? Then when you get that new job you start thinking, “I need to lose 10 pounds?” A lot of us are action focused and feel like failures when we are not wanting something or working towards it.
There is nothing wrong with wanting more, you are making your life better. The only problem being sometimes you are never satisfied and keep thinking life will be better when reaching yet another goal. How can you achieve the feeling of satisfaction and at the same time continue working on your goals?
As Louise Hay’s says, “You are the power and authority of your world.” Below are some simple steps you can take to get started.
• Write a list of what is working in your life.
• Take one step everyday towards your goal. Example: Take a 10 minute fast pace walk before dinner.
• Look in the mirror every morning and tell yourself, “I am the best I can be right now.”
I invite you to let the Get Off the Diet Merry-Go-Round Community know what other steps we can take to create a beautiful world for ourselves.
Monday, May 12, 2008
Life is Beautiful
“Life is change.
Growth is optional.
Choose wisely.”
Karen Kaiser Clark
This quote has a lot of meaning for me. Reading between the lines you can either hide in denial or take advantage of a growth opportunity. Nothing is easy!
Every day is a new day with many opportunities, changes and options. Yesterday was Mother’s Day and I had a choice to feel sorry for myself because Bob (my husband past away on January 10, 2008) was not with us or enjoy the day. I made the choice to have a beautiful day.
Spending the day with my family made it easier. At times it was sad when we reminisced about the good times we had together and also laughed at some of the funny stories. It is amazing how your attitude affects your mood and day.
Every day is a new day and what a great opportunity we have to find the beauty in this world. What new growth opportunity did you learn today?
Growth is optional.
Choose wisely.”
Karen Kaiser Clark
This quote has a lot of meaning for me. Reading between the lines you can either hide in denial or take advantage of a growth opportunity. Nothing is easy!
Every day is a new day with many opportunities, changes and options. Yesterday was Mother’s Day and I had a choice to feel sorry for myself because Bob (my husband past away on January 10, 2008) was not with us or enjoy the day. I made the choice to have a beautiful day.
Spending the day with my family made it easier. At times it was sad when we reminisced about the good times we had together and also laughed at some of the funny stories. It is amazing how your attitude affects your mood and day.
Every day is a new day and what a great opportunity we have to find the beauty in this world. What new growth opportunity did you learn today?
Thursday, May 8, 2008
Stress Diet
I received the diet below and want to share it with everyone who is struggling with food. Enjoy!
“Formulated diet designed to help women cope with the stress that builds during the day.
Breakfast
1 grapefruit
1 slice whole wheat toast
1 cup skim milk
Lunch
1 small portion lean, steamed chicken
1 cup spinach
1 cup herbal tea
1 Hershey's kiss
Afternoon Tea
The rest of the Hershey Kisses in the bag
1 tub of Hagen-Daaz ice cream with chocolate chips
Dinner
4 glasses of wine (red or white)
2 loaves garlic bread
1 family size supreme pizza
3 Snickers Bars
Late Night Snack
1 whole Sarah Lee cheesecake (eaten directly from the freezer)
Remember: Stressed spelled backward is desserts.”
I laughed when I read the diet and all of a sudden realized it was not so funny. I remember starting every morning eating half of a plain bagel and a cup of coffee and lunch having a small plain salad and coffee. Then when I walked into the house after work the floodgates would open and I could not get the food into my mouth fast enough. After eating everything in site I would hate myself and start exercising to get rid of all the food I ate. This was my life for many years.
Ten years ago my thinking switched and I started to eat healthy, use portion control and moderately exercise. What happened to change my behavior and look at food from a different prospective? It comes down to self-respect and loving ourselves.
It has often been said. “I would never want to be my own best friend.” We tend to be the hardest on ourselves. When we start treating ourselves with kindness our food perception changes and we stop wanting to continually hurt our bodies by overeating.
Following are a few daily steps you can take to change your behavior and thinking towards yourself:
1. Remind yourself you are a human being who has many gifts. Example: You always have a smile on your face and people feel comfortable around you. Reminding yourself about your special gifts helps change your thinking.
2. Take care of yourself, even if you don’t feel like it, do it anyway. I often heard it said. “Act as if.” Continually practicing a new behavior becomes a habit after 21 days.
3. Acknowledge yourself for your accomplishments. Example: Today I had a piece of fruit instead of cookies. Acknowledging yourself helps you to start focusing on your accomplishments instead of your disappointments. You are a special person and deserve the best your life has to offer.
This is the first step in changing your behaviors and thinking. Say hello, to the new beautiful person, who is loving and taking care of You. Please try one or all of the steps above and let me know what difference it makes with your food struggles. I love you all. Helen
“Formulated diet designed to help women cope with the stress that builds during the day.
Breakfast
1 grapefruit
1 slice whole wheat toast
1 cup skim milk
Lunch
1 small portion lean, steamed chicken
1 cup spinach
1 cup herbal tea
1 Hershey's kiss
Afternoon Tea
The rest of the Hershey Kisses in the bag
1 tub of Hagen-Daaz ice cream with chocolate chips
Dinner
4 glasses of wine (red or white)
2 loaves garlic bread
1 family size supreme pizza
3 Snickers Bars
Late Night Snack
1 whole Sarah Lee cheesecake (eaten directly from the freezer)
Remember: Stressed spelled backward is desserts.”
I laughed when I read the diet and all of a sudden realized it was not so funny. I remember starting every morning eating half of a plain bagel and a cup of coffee and lunch having a small plain salad and coffee. Then when I walked into the house after work the floodgates would open and I could not get the food into my mouth fast enough. After eating everything in site I would hate myself and start exercising to get rid of all the food I ate. This was my life for many years.
Ten years ago my thinking switched and I started to eat healthy, use portion control and moderately exercise. What happened to change my behavior and look at food from a different prospective? It comes down to self-respect and loving ourselves.
It has often been said. “I would never want to be my own best friend.” We tend to be the hardest on ourselves. When we start treating ourselves with kindness our food perception changes and we stop wanting to continually hurt our bodies by overeating.
Following are a few daily steps you can take to change your behavior and thinking towards yourself:
1. Remind yourself you are a human being who has many gifts. Example: You always have a smile on your face and people feel comfortable around you. Reminding yourself about your special gifts helps change your thinking.
2. Take care of yourself, even if you don’t feel like it, do it anyway. I often heard it said. “Act as if.” Continually practicing a new behavior becomes a habit after 21 days.
3. Acknowledge yourself for your accomplishments. Example: Today I had a piece of fruit instead of cookies. Acknowledging yourself helps you to start focusing on your accomplishments instead of your disappointments. You are a special person and deserve the best your life has to offer.
This is the first step in changing your behaviors and thinking. Say hello, to the new beautiful person, who is loving and taking care of You. Please try one or all of the steps above and let me know what difference it makes with your food struggles. I love you all. Helen
Tuesday, May 6, 2008
Stress Releasers
Do you feel very stressed and have any of the thoughts below?
• I have to go on another diet.
• I have to get a new job.
• I don’t have enough money.
• All I want is to spend a little time alone.
The list can go on and on. Today’s article is about what you can do to feel relaxed, peaceful and happy during the day.
Let’s take the example all you want to do is spend a little time alone. You go to work everyday, pick-up the kids, make dinner, spend quality time as a family and get ready for the next day. You have no time for YOU and no wonder you feel overwhelmed. Spending a little time by yourself sounds like a dream that will never happen.
One day I was feeling very stressed thinking about all the work I had to do and not having enough hours in a day to finish everything. Complaining to a friend she told me about an article she just read on how to relieve stress. We discussed the different techniques of meditating, thinking positively and spending time working on your hobbies. While we were talking I came up with the idea of taking a mini-vacation everyday. To take this mini-vacation all you have to do is schedule 10 minutes out of your busy day.
10 Minute Mini-Vacation Plan
1. Schedule 10 minutes out of your busy day to do whatever you enjoy doing.
Some ideas:
• Take a walk by yourself.
• Light a candle and read a fun novel.
• Sit in a chair and take a short nap.
• Work on your hobby.
• Call a friend and reminisce about the good times.
• DO WHATEVER YOU ENJOY DOING!!
2. Make sure you take that 10 minute mini-vacation because you are important and need time to recharge your batteries.
3. Thank yourself for taking the time for YOU.
4. Plan what you are going to do tomorrow.
Taking this time for yourself helps you feel relaxed, special and able to cope with the rest of your day. YOU DESERVE THIS TIME!!! Give yourself this special treat TODAY.
As always I love hearing your stories, accomplishments and lessons learned. If you are having a difficult time please let me know and together we can find some simple solutions. To contact me, leave a comment on this blog or send an email to helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net. I look forward to hearing from you.
• I have to go on another diet.
• I have to get a new job.
• I don’t have enough money.
• All I want is to spend a little time alone.
The list can go on and on. Today’s article is about what you can do to feel relaxed, peaceful and happy during the day.
Let’s take the example all you want to do is spend a little time alone. You go to work everyday, pick-up the kids, make dinner, spend quality time as a family and get ready for the next day. You have no time for YOU and no wonder you feel overwhelmed. Spending a little time by yourself sounds like a dream that will never happen.
One day I was feeling very stressed thinking about all the work I had to do and not having enough hours in a day to finish everything. Complaining to a friend she told me about an article she just read on how to relieve stress. We discussed the different techniques of meditating, thinking positively and spending time working on your hobbies. While we were talking I came up with the idea of taking a mini-vacation everyday. To take this mini-vacation all you have to do is schedule 10 minutes out of your busy day.
10 Minute Mini-Vacation Plan
1. Schedule 10 minutes out of your busy day to do whatever you enjoy doing.
Some ideas:
• Take a walk by yourself.
• Light a candle and read a fun novel.
• Sit in a chair and take a short nap.
• Work on your hobby.
• Call a friend and reminisce about the good times.
• DO WHATEVER YOU ENJOY DOING!!
2. Make sure you take that 10 minute mini-vacation because you are important and need time to recharge your batteries.
3. Thank yourself for taking the time for YOU.
4. Plan what you are going to do tomorrow.
Taking this time for yourself helps you feel relaxed, special and able to cope with the rest of your day. YOU DESERVE THIS TIME!!! Give yourself this special treat TODAY.
As always I love hearing your stories, accomplishments and lessons learned. If you are having a difficult time please let me know and together we can find some simple solutions. To contact me, leave a comment on this blog or send an email to helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net. I look forward to hearing from you.
Monday, May 5, 2008
Tools for Happines
I want to apologize for not posting on my blog for awhile. I missed you all. I had a hard time writing and have been asking God to help me write again. A miracle happened today and the words appeared. I am grateful to be back and look forward to reading your comments. Helen
Changing Your Thoughts
Do you sometimes feel if you start thinking, “Everything is good in my life,” bad things will start to happen? You are not alone!
In the past we have learned when things are going good something bad always happens. How do we change our thinking to give us the security in believing we can have positive thoughts and our world will not fall apart? Let’s explore this together.
When we are thinking about our past we sometimes tend to think about things that went wrong instead of the gifts we received. An example: You can focus on how many diets you were on and gained the weight back or think about the times you maintained your weight. I know this change in thinking may sound difficult.
All it takes is one little step to get started. Following are some steps you can take to change your thinking:
1. Whenever anyone asks how you are doing, you can say “Great.” By letting the Universe know you are happy it will provide less challenges so you don’t have to learn lessons.
2. Before getting out of bed, write down three things that you accomplished the day before. Knowing you have accomplished things raises your self-confidence.
3. In the mirror every morning tell yourself, “I love my life.” You will start to feel happier and look for the gifts in your world.
4. Put a smile on your face when you answer the phone or leave the house. Smiling gives us a sense of happiness and it will show in your voice and face.
5. When having a negative thought, picture a stop sign and think the same thought in a positive way. An example: Negative thought: “My life is so hard. Picture a Stop Sign. Positive thought: “Great things are happening in my life, yesterday my daughter told me, “I was a great mom.”
Now is your turn. Try one or more of the steps above and see what happens. I look forward to hearing from you. Helen
Changing Your Thoughts
Do you sometimes feel if you start thinking, “Everything is good in my life,” bad things will start to happen? You are not alone!
In the past we have learned when things are going good something bad always happens. How do we change our thinking to give us the security in believing we can have positive thoughts and our world will not fall apart? Let’s explore this together.
When we are thinking about our past we sometimes tend to think about things that went wrong instead of the gifts we received. An example: You can focus on how many diets you were on and gained the weight back or think about the times you maintained your weight. I know this change in thinking may sound difficult.
All it takes is one little step to get started. Following are some steps you can take to change your thinking:
1. Whenever anyone asks how you are doing, you can say “Great.” By letting the Universe know you are happy it will provide less challenges so you don’t have to learn lessons.
2. Before getting out of bed, write down three things that you accomplished the day before. Knowing you have accomplished things raises your self-confidence.
3. In the mirror every morning tell yourself, “I love my life.” You will start to feel happier and look for the gifts in your world.
4. Put a smile on your face when you answer the phone or leave the house. Smiling gives us a sense of happiness and it will show in your voice and face.
5. When having a negative thought, picture a stop sign and think the same thought in a positive way. An example: Negative thought: “My life is so hard. Picture a Stop Sign. Positive thought: “Great things are happening in my life, yesterday my daughter told me, “I was a great mom.”
Now is your turn. Try one or more of the steps above and see what happens. I look forward to hearing from you. Helen
Tuesday, April 15, 2008
Chosing Thoughts
As we go thru life having hundreds of thoughts a day, some positive and others negative. These thoughts help us move forward or stop us completely.
What I am learning is that I have a choice, either I can let my thoughts dictate my emotions or not. Today for example, I was thinking of putting the winter clothes away and taking out my summer things. I started thinking how my husband would help me transfer the clothes from the attic and I could not do it alone. All of a sudden I received a burst of energy and started transferring the clothes. Within an hour I was completely done.
If I would have listened to my thoughts I would have looked for someone to help me and felt sorry for myself. Instead started the project and the next thing knew I was done.
What have you been putting off doing because your thoughts have been telling you to get help or give up the idea? Following are some steps you can take to get started:
1. Schedule time to begin the project. Putting aside time to work on a project provides support so you get started.
2. Tell someone what your plans are. Letting them know what you are planning helps with motivation and keep your word.
3. Reward yourself when the project is completed. You can remind yourself while you are working that when finished you will receive a special gift. This motivates you to complete the project.
4. Acknowledge yourself for a job well done. Acknowledging yourself enforces our greatness.
What project are you planning to complete today? Taking some or all of the above steps will help you complete the project. Let me know how you make out.
What I am learning is that I have a choice, either I can let my thoughts dictate my emotions or not. Today for example, I was thinking of putting the winter clothes away and taking out my summer things. I started thinking how my husband would help me transfer the clothes from the attic and I could not do it alone. All of a sudden I received a burst of energy and started transferring the clothes. Within an hour I was completely done.
If I would have listened to my thoughts I would have looked for someone to help me and felt sorry for myself. Instead started the project and the next thing knew I was done.
What have you been putting off doing because your thoughts have been telling you to get help or give up the idea? Following are some steps you can take to get started:
1. Schedule time to begin the project. Putting aside time to work on a project provides support so you get started.
2. Tell someone what your plans are. Letting them know what you are planning helps with motivation and keep your word.
3. Reward yourself when the project is completed. You can remind yourself while you are working that when finished you will receive a special gift. This motivates you to complete the project.
4. Acknowledge yourself for a job well done. Acknowledging yourself enforces our greatness.
What project are you planning to complete today? Taking some or all of the above steps will help you complete the project. Let me know how you make out.
Wednesday, April 9, 2008
One Step At A Time
My daughter, Mindi, sent me the story below and I would like to share it with you.
The Daffodil Principle
Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come to see the daffodils before they are over."
I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead "I will come next Tuesday", I promised a little reluctantly on her third call.
Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and reluctantly I drove there. When I finally walked into Carolyn's house I was welcomed by the joyful sounds of happy children. I delightedly hugged and greeted my grandchildren.
"Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in these clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see badly enough to drive another inch!"
My daughter smiled calmly and said, "We drive in this all the time, Mother."
"Well, you won't get me back on the road until it clears, and then I'm heading for home!" I assured her.
"But first we're going to see the daffodils. It's just a few blocks," Carolyn said. "I'll drive. I'm used to this."
"Carolyn," I said sternly, "Please turn around."
"It's all right, Mother, I promise. You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience."
After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church, I saw a hand lettered sign with an arrow that read, " Daffodil Garden ." We got out of the car, each took a child's hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. Then, as we turned a corner, I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight.
It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it over the mountain and its surrounding slopes. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, creamy white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, and saffron and butter yellow. Each different colored variety was planted in large groups so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers.
Who did this?" I asked Carolyn. "Just one woman," Carolyn answered. "She lives on the property. That's her home." Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house, small and modestly sitting in the midst of all that glory. We walked up to the house.
On the patio, we saw a poster. "Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking", was the headline. The first answer was a simple one. "50,000 bulbs," it read. The second answer was, "One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and one brain." The third answer was, "Began in 1958."
For me, that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than forty years before, had begun, one bulb at a time, to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountaintop. Planting one bulb at a time, year after year, this unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. One day at a time, she had created something of extraordinary magnificence, beauty, and inspiration. The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principles of celebration.
That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time--often just one baby-step at time--and learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time. When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world.
"It makes me sad in a way," I admitted to Carolyn. "What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five or forty years ago and had worked away at it 'one bulb at a time' through all those years? Just think what I might have been able to achieve!"
My daughter summed up the message of the day in her usual direct way. "Start tomorrow," she said.
She was right. It's so pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson of celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, "How can I put this to use today?"
Use the Daffodil Principle. Stop waiting.....
Until your car or home is paid off
Until you get a new car or home
Until your kids leave the house
Until you go back to school
Until you finish school
Until you clean the house
Until you organize the garage
Until you clean off your desk
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married
Until you get a divorce
Until you have kids
Until the kids go to school
Until you retire
Until summer
Until spring
Until winter
Until fall
Until you die...
There is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
So work like you don't need money.
Love like you've never been hurt, and,
Dance like no one's watching.
Wishing you a beautiful, daffodil day!
Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.
If you want to brighten someone's day, pass this on.
The Daffodil Principle
Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come to see the daffodils before they are over."
I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead "I will come next Tuesday", I promised a little reluctantly on her third call.
Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and reluctantly I drove there. When I finally walked into Carolyn's house I was welcomed by the joyful sounds of happy children. I delightedly hugged and greeted my grandchildren.
"Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in these clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see badly enough to drive another inch!"
My daughter smiled calmly and said, "We drive in this all the time, Mother."
"Well, you won't get me back on the road until it clears, and then I'm heading for home!" I assured her.
"But first we're going to see the daffodils. It's just a few blocks," Carolyn said. "I'll drive. I'm used to this."
"Carolyn," I said sternly, "Please turn around."
"It's all right, Mother, I promise. You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience."
After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church, I saw a hand lettered sign with an arrow that read, " Daffodil Garden ." We got out of the car, each took a child's hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. Then, as we turned a corner, I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight.
It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it over the mountain and its surrounding slopes. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, creamy white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, and saffron and butter yellow. Each different colored variety was planted in large groups so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers.
Who did this?" I asked Carolyn. "Just one woman," Carolyn answered. "She lives on the property. That's her home." Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house, small and modestly sitting in the midst of all that glory. We walked up to the house.
On the patio, we saw a poster. "Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking", was the headline. The first answer was a simple one. "50,000 bulbs," it read. The second answer was, "One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and one brain." The third answer was, "Began in 1958."
For me, that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than forty years before, had begun, one bulb at a time, to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountaintop. Planting one bulb at a time, year after year, this unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. One day at a time, she had created something of extraordinary magnificence, beauty, and inspiration. The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the greatest principles of celebration.
That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time--often just one baby-step at time--and learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time. When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world.
"It makes me sad in a way," I admitted to Carolyn. "What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five or forty years ago and had worked away at it 'one bulb at a time' through all those years? Just think what I might have been able to achieve!"
My daughter summed up the message of the day in her usual direct way. "Start tomorrow," she said.
She was right. It's so pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson of celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, "How can I put this to use today?"
Use the Daffodil Principle. Stop waiting.....
Until your car or home is paid off
Until you get a new car or home
Until your kids leave the house
Until you go back to school
Until you finish school
Until you clean the house
Until you organize the garage
Until you clean off your desk
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married
Until you get a divorce
Until you have kids
Until the kids go to school
Until you retire
Until summer
Until spring
Until winter
Until fall
Until you die...
There is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
So work like you don't need money.
Love like you've never been hurt, and,
Dance like no one's watching.
Wishing you a beautiful, daffodil day!
Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.
If you want to brighten someone's day, pass this on.
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
Losing Weight
EMPHASIZE WHAT WORKS
Dieters lose weight when focusing on
what motivates them.
The Spring weather has finally arrived and your thoughts are turning to losing weight. You better lose those 10, 20 or 30 pounds before you can’t hide behind your winter clothes. Then your thoughts turn to summer and how will you be able to put a bathing suit on again. Join the club!
What are you going to do? I am sorry to say you can’t just wish the weight off, it takes a commitment, changing your thinking and behaviors. On the other hand, you can make the weight lose process easy and fun. No, I have not lost my mind!
Susan gained 15 pounds from September through March. She was besides herself with worry about losing the weight. Every morning she would decide to go on another diet. Her plan was to skip breakfast, eat a salad with no dressing for lunch and a regular dinner. This plan worked in the past. Does this sound familiar?
Susan left the house with a cup of coffee and when she arrived at the office everyone was enjoying the bagels their manager brought in for her birthday. She told herself, “I didn’t eat breakfast so I can have a half of a bagel.” Susan took a whole bagel and while talking to her friend she ate the whole thing. When she realized what happened she decided to start her diet tomorrow and then enjoyed a chocolate donut. This is a common occurrence among dieters.
What to do to change your behaviors and lose the weight once and for all. You can create a personal balance sheet to see what motivates you. It works the same way as an accounting balance sheet it compares assets and liabilities.
Start by drawing a line down the center of the page. On the left side put the heading “Motivators” and on the right “Negative Thoughts.” Record your answers on your personal balance sheet. See an example below the questions.
On the “Motivator” side answer the following questions:
1. What motivates me to stay on a healthy eating plan?
2. How do I feel when I eat healthy and in moderation?
3. What support do I need to continue following my healthy plan?
On the “Negative Thoughts” side answer the following questions:
1. What excuses do I use to start eating unhealthy?
2. How do I feel when I blow another diet?
MOTIVATORS
Watching the scale go down.
I am taking care of me. I am too tired to cook tonight?
I feel proud of myself . I feel like a failure.
A partner helps me stay on a diet.
NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
Everyone is eating why can't I?
I am too tired to cook tonight?
I feel like a failure.
I can’t lose weight so why try.
Review both lists and decide what steps you want to take so the motivators start working for you. On the other hand, what tools are you going to use when those negative thoughts pop their ugly head.
Some of the steps you can take are as follows:
1. Plan your healthy realistic menu the day before. By planning a menu that does not deprive you from eating the foods your body needs, will help you follow your plan.
2. Remind yourself constantly that you are taking care of yourself. When you realize you are doing something to ensure you look good and stay healthy gives you the courage and strength to continue.
3. Say to yourself before you put any food in your mouth, “The food will not make things better, only hurt me.” Telling yourself the food will only hurt you, makes you stop for a moment and think before taking the next bite.
4, Share with a partner accomplishments and find solutions to challenges. Working with a partner you are not alone and accountable to another person. It also helps you find solutions to challenges.
5. Acknowledge yourself each day for realizing you are IMPORTANT. When we realize only we can take care of us, somehow it makes it easier.
Now it is your turn to try the exercise above and see what miracles it creates. Please share your experiences and other ideas with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community.
Dieters lose weight when focusing on
what motivates them.
The Spring weather has finally arrived and your thoughts are turning to losing weight. You better lose those 10, 20 or 30 pounds before you can’t hide behind your winter clothes. Then your thoughts turn to summer and how will you be able to put a bathing suit on again. Join the club!
What are you going to do? I am sorry to say you can’t just wish the weight off, it takes a commitment, changing your thinking and behaviors. On the other hand, you can make the weight lose process easy and fun. No, I have not lost my mind!
Susan gained 15 pounds from September through March. She was besides herself with worry about losing the weight. Every morning she would decide to go on another diet. Her plan was to skip breakfast, eat a salad with no dressing for lunch and a regular dinner. This plan worked in the past. Does this sound familiar?
Susan left the house with a cup of coffee and when she arrived at the office everyone was enjoying the bagels their manager brought in for her birthday. She told herself, “I didn’t eat breakfast so I can have a half of a bagel.” Susan took a whole bagel and while talking to her friend she ate the whole thing. When she realized what happened she decided to start her diet tomorrow and then enjoyed a chocolate donut. This is a common occurrence among dieters.
What to do to change your behaviors and lose the weight once and for all. You can create a personal balance sheet to see what motivates you. It works the same way as an accounting balance sheet it compares assets and liabilities.
Start by drawing a line down the center of the page. On the left side put the heading “Motivators” and on the right “Negative Thoughts.” Record your answers on your personal balance sheet. See an example below the questions.
On the “Motivator” side answer the following questions:
1. What motivates me to stay on a healthy eating plan?
2. How do I feel when I eat healthy and in moderation?
3. What support do I need to continue following my healthy plan?
On the “Negative Thoughts” side answer the following questions:
1. What excuses do I use to start eating unhealthy?
2. How do I feel when I blow another diet?
MOTIVATORS
Watching the scale go down.
I am taking care of me. I am too tired to cook tonight?
I feel proud of myself . I feel like a failure.
A partner helps me stay on a diet.
NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
Everyone is eating why can't I?
I am too tired to cook tonight?
I feel like a failure.
I can’t lose weight so why try.
Review both lists and decide what steps you want to take so the motivators start working for you. On the other hand, what tools are you going to use when those negative thoughts pop their ugly head.
Some of the steps you can take are as follows:
1. Plan your healthy realistic menu the day before. By planning a menu that does not deprive you from eating the foods your body needs, will help you follow your plan.
2. Remind yourself constantly that you are taking care of yourself. When you realize you are doing something to ensure you look good and stay healthy gives you the courage and strength to continue.
3. Say to yourself before you put any food in your mouth, “The food will not make things better, only hurt me.” Telling yourself the food will only hurt you, makes you stop for a moment and think before taking the next bite.
4, Share with a partner accomplishments and find solutions to challenges. Working with a partner you are not alone and accountable to another person. It also helps you find solutions to challenges.
5. Acknowledge yourself each day for realizing you are IMPORTANT. When we realize only we can take care of us, somehow it makes it easier.
Now it is your turn to try the exercise above and see what miracles it creates. Please share your experiences and other ideas with the Love Yourself – It Matters! Community.
Tuesday, April 1, 2008
Sharing Our Special Gifts
What do you like about yourself? Most of us don’t think about what we like or dislike about ourselves unless something happens and we are upset about our behavior. Usually we spend most of our time thinking about the things we have to do, losing weight, or about other people. When do you ever stop and think about the great person you are?
I was leading a workshop and requested that all the participants find a partner they knew and tell each other what they liked about them. At first the room was very quite and then as time went on, and with my prodding, people started to share and I saw smiles and tears. If the group members are strangers I still have the participants find a partner and tell each other what they like about themselves. It still has the same effect. The exercise continued until each person had three new partners.
After the exercise a person shared that he never realized how much others valued his advice. Another person shared how everyone loved her smile and people felt comfortable being with her. The shares continued and what we all learned from the exercise is how we always take for granted our special gifts.
Today is a new day and your chance to acknowledge your special gifts. I invite you to complete the following exercise to discover your special gifts.
1. Ask someone you feel very comfortable with if they would help with a special project you are doing. If they say, “Yes.”
2. Explain you are going to tell them what you like about them and then they can tell you what they like about you.
3. Continue this exercise two more times.
4. Give each other a big hug if you are together.
5. Write yourself a letter listing what you like about yourself and what your friend told you.
6. Mail the letter to yourself.
7. Read the letter often reminding yourself what special gifts you give to others and what a beautiful person you are.
Please let me know after completing this exercise what you have discovered about your special gifts. Also, what impact has it made in your life after learning about them. I can be reached by emailing helen@loveyourself.net.
We are beautiful people who have many special gifts to share with ourselves and others.
I was leading a workshop and requested that all the participants find a partner they knew and tell each other what they liked about them. At first the room was very quite and then as time went on, and with my prodding, people started to share and I saw smiles and tears. If the group members are strangers I still have the participants find a partner and tell each other what they like about themselves. It still has the same effect. The exercise continued until each person had three new partners.
After the exercise a person shared that he never realized how much others valued his advice. Another person shared how everyone loved her smile and people felt comfortable being with her. The shares continued and what we all learned from the exercise is how we always take for granted our special gifts.
Today is a new day and your chance to acknowledge your special gifts. I invite you to complete the following exercise to discover your special gifts.
1. Ask someone you feel very comfortable with if they would help with a special project you are doing. If they say, “Yes.”
2. Explain you are going to tell them what you like about them and then they can tell you what they like about you.
3. Continue this exercise two more times.
4. Give each other a big hug if you are together.
5. Write yourself a letter listing what you like about yourself and what your friend told you.
6. Mail the letter to yourself.
7. Read the letter often reminding yourself what special gifts you give to others and what a beautiful person you are.
Please let me know after completing this exercise what you have discovered about your special gifts. Also, what impact has it made in your life after learning about them. I can be reached by emailing helen@loveyourself.net.
We are beautiful people who have many special gifts to share with ourselves and others.
Monday, March 31, 2008
Love Yourself - It Matters!
Read by Nelson Mandela
at His Inauguration
“Our deepest fear
is not that we are inadequate.
It is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness what most frightens us.
You might ask yourself,
“Who am I to be so brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?”
Actually, who are you not to be!
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won’t feel unsure around you.
We are all meant to shine as children do.
We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us.
As we shine our own light,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson
This is my favorite Inspirational Message that Nelson Mandela read during his inauguration. I often read this message and think that I am special, important and a gift to others. My favorite line is “As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” What it means to me is that when I let my fears stop me I am not taking advantage of opportunities which may be beneficial to me and others.
Please let me know what your feelings and discoveries when reading this inspirational message. I look forward to hearing from you.
at His Inauguration
“Our deepest fear
is not that we are inadequate.
It is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness what most frightens us.
You might ask yourself,
“Who am I to be so brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?”
Actually, who are you not to be!
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won’t feel unsure around you.
We are all meant to shine as children do.
We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us.
As we shine our own light,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson
This is my favorite Inspirational Message that Nelson Mandela read during his inauguration. I often read this message and think that I am special, important and a gift to others. My favorite line is “As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” What it means to me is that when I let my fears stop me I am not taking advantage of opportunities which may be beneficial to me and others.
Please let me know what your feelings and discoveries when reading this inspirational message. I look forward to hearing from you.
Monday, March 24, 2008
Feeling Sorry for Yourself Produces Miracles
“One has just to be oneself.
That’s my basic message.
The moment you accept yourself as you are,
All burdens, all mountainous burdens,
simply disappear.
Then life is a sheer joy,
a festival of lights.”
Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh
Indian spiritual master
What I think Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh was saying in the above quote is to accept yourself as the person you are and happiness will follow. Speaking from experience I know it is very hard sometimes to accept myself as a beautiful person. I can find a hundred things wrong with me. Sometimes I can be my worst enemy.
What do you accomplish by allowing yourself to beat you up? Following are some good reasons?
1. Give yourself permission to feel sorry for yourself.
2. Don’t have to take any risks.
3. Taking a mini-vacation from life.
4. Spend time alone.
During the time you are feeling sorry for yourself, miracles can happen. What am I talking about? While you are feeling sorry for yourself you are constantly thinking about your life and what is happening. Many ideas surface at this time, which you are examining.
Let me tell you a story. Mary, name changed was trained as a computer programmer. Not being able to get a job in her field, she was working as an assistant nursery school teacher. Everyday after school she would go home more depressed than the day before. This situation continued month after month. Until one day during our coaching session she had the bright idea of asking her neighbor, who worked for a computer programming company, how she could get into the field. He was delighted to speak with her. He helped Mary write her resume and also spoke to the human resources director at his company. A miracle happened and Mary was offered a job at the same company. Another miracle happened she started dating her neighbor and they are planning to get married.
In this situation by feeling sorry for herself, Mary came up with ideas that produced miracles.
Today is your day for a miracle to happen. Just for Today if you are feeling sorry for yourself take the following steps:
1. Write about your unhappiness. (Example: I can’t lose weight.)
2. Write down ideas that can change your situation. (Examples: Exercise 20 minutes a day, eat healthy and stop eating chocolate.)
2. Examine each idea and chose one.
3. What small action step are you going to take today? (Example: I am going to walk outside for 20 minutes.)
Let me know how you make out by leaving a comment on the Love Yourself – It Matters! Blog or sending me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.
Remember you are a beautiful person and can accomplish anything you want by taking one some step at a time.
That’s my basic message.
The moment you accept yourself as you are,
All burdens, all mountainous burdens,
simply disappear.
Then life is a sheer joy,
a festival of lights.”
Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh
Indian spiritual master
What I think Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh was saying in the above quote is to accept yourself as the person you are and happiness will follow. Speaking from experience I know it is very hard sometimes to accept myself as a beautiful person. I can find a hundred things wrong with me. Sometimes I can be my worst enemy.
What do you accomplish by allowing yourself to beat you up? Following are some good reasons?
1. Give yourself permission to feel sorry for yourself.
2. Don’t have to take any risks.
3. Taking a mini-vacation from life.
4. Spend time alone.
During the time you are feeling sorry for yourself, miracles can happen. What am I talking about? While you are feeling sorry for yourself you are constantly thinking about your life and what is happening. Many ideas surface at this time, which you are examining.
Let me tell you a story. Mary, name changed was trained as a computer programmer. Not being able to get a job in her field, she was working as an assistant nursery school teacher. Everyday after school she would go home more depressed than the day before. This situation continued month after month. Until one day during our coaching session she had the bright idea of asking her neighbor, who worked for a computer programming company, how she could get into the field. He was delighted to speak with her. He helped Mary write her resume and also spoke to the human resources director at his company. A miracle happened and Mary was offered a job at the same company. Another miracle happened she started dating her neighbor and they are planning to get married.
In this situation by feeling sorry for herself, Mary came up with ideas that produced miracles.
Today is your day for a miracle to happen. Just for Today if you are feeling sorry for yourself take the following steps:
1. Write about your unhappiness. (Example: I can’t lose weight.)
2. Write down ideas that can change your situation. (Examples: Exercise 20 minutes a day, eat healthy and stop eating chocolate.)
2. Examine each idea and chose one.
3. What small action step are you going to take today? (Example: I am going to walk outside for 20 minutes.)
Let me know how you make out by leaving a comment on the Love Yourself – It Matters! Blog or sending me an email at helen@loveyourselfcoaching.net.
Remember you are a beautiful person and can accomplish anything you want by taking one some step at a time.
Sunday, March 23, 2008
Family Parties
“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be.
If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing,
it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it.
On the contrary, if I shall have the belief that I can do it,
I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it,
even if I may not have it at the beginning.”
Mahatma Gandhi
Reading this quote, it all comes down to what we tell ourselves. If we say no way am I going to lose weight or I will never get a new job or my life is hard and it will never get easy we expect things to remain the same.
I remember telling myself never look for a positive outcome to a situation because if it doesn’t happen I won’t feel bad. Guess what I always felt bad if something did not turn out the way I wanted it to.
On the other hand if we think positively and look for the opportunities in every situation we are always receiving many gifts.
Today is Easter and some of us are spending the day with our families. Sometimes our old tapes start replaying and we compare ourselves with our family members. Susan married a rich Doctor and doesn’t have to worry about money like we do. Paul has a great job and never married so he has not responsibilities. It goes on and on.
This year let’s play a different game and make a grateful list before going visit our family members. Making the list reveals to us that we are pretty lucky. Also, no one knows how another person feels. Just because your sister is married to a doctor does not mean they don’t have money worries. Also, your brother may feel lonely and wish he was married.
The secret is to keep reminding yourself of what you do have and treat yourself with loving kindness. There are no better gifts in the world.
Today at the family function bring your special gifts and compassion for everyone.
Have a beautiful day!
If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing,
it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it.
On the contrary, if I shall have the belief that I can do it,
I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it,
even if I may not have it at the beginning.”
Mahatma Gandhi
Reading this quote, it all comes down to what we tell ourselves. If we say no way am I going to lose weight or I will never get a new job or my life is hard and it will never get easy we expect things to remain the same.
I remember telling myself never look for a positive outcome to a situation because if it doesn’t happen I won’t feel bad. Guess what I always felt bad if something did not turn out the way I wanted it to.
On the other hand if we think positively and look for the opportunities in every situation we are always receiving many gifts.
Today is Easter and some of us are spending the day with our families. Sometimes our old tapes start replaying and we compare ourselves with our family members. Susan married a rich Doctor and doesn’t have to worry about money like we do. Paul has a great job and never married so he has not responsibilities. It goes on and on.
This year let’s play a different game and make a grateful list before going visit our family members. Making the list reveals to us that we are pretty lucky. Also, no one knows how another person feels. Just because your sister is married to a doctor does not mean they don’t have money worries. Also, your brother may feel lonely and wish he was married.
The secret is to keep reminding yourself of what you do have and treat yourself with loving kindness. There are no better gifts in the world.
Today at the family function bring your special gifts and compassion for everyone.
Have a beautiful day!
Sunday, March 16, 2008
Smiles and Kindness
“Life is not made up
of great sacrifices and duties
but of little things in which smiles
and kindness given habitually
are what win and preserve
the heart and secure comfort.”
Sir Humphry Davy, 1778-1829
English chemist and inventor
This is a great quote, all we have to do is smile and be kind to secure comfort. Some days it is so hard to just smile and be kind to ourselves and others. Others days it is easy. Our attitude determines our actions.
When I am feeling good about myself, self-confident and giving. I usually smile most of the day and am kind to myself and others.
Some small steps you can take during the day that will create a feeling of well being:
1. Do something nice for yourself the first thing in the morning.
Example: After getting out of bed make yourself a cup of coffee or tea and drink it in a room by yourself. It only takes about 5 to 10 minutes and the rewards are numerous. When you are kind to yourself it creates the feeling that you are important. Then you are able to share your smiles and kindness with others.
2. Have a healthy breakfast. The food will fuel your body and provide a feeling of satisfaction. Feeling content will unlock your smiles and you are able to give them freely.
3. Positive thinking. When having a negative thought stop, acknowledge it and think of something positive. Thinking positively you are being kind to yourself and creating a feeling of self-confidence.
4. Acknowledge your resentments towards others. Resentment is the feeling someone is taking advantage of you or has been hurtful. I know we sometimes feel we have the right to be angry because the someone was mean, hurtful or uncaring. I once heard a statement, “Resentment is drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.” This sums it all up. Being resentful only hurt us. We are more important than the other person. What I usually do is have a conversation in my head with the other person and then picture a bright healing light aro
of great sacrifices and duties
but of little things in which smiles
and kindness given habitually
are what win and preserve
the heart and secure comfort.”
Sir Humphry Davy, 1778-1829
English chemist and inventor
This is a great quote, all we have to do is smile and be kind to secure comfort. Some days it is so hard to just smile and be kind to ourselves and others. Others days it is easy. Our attitude determines our actions.
When I am feeling good about myself, self-confident and giving. I usually smile most of the day and am kind to myself and others.
Some small steps you can take during the day that will create a feeling of well being:
1. Do something nice for yourself the first thing in the morning.
Example: After getting out of bed make yourself a cup of coffee or tea and drink it in a room by yourself. It only takes about 5 to 10 minutes and the rewards are numerous. When you are kind to yourself it creates the feeling that you are important. Then you are able to share your smiles and kindness with others.
2. Have a healthy breakfast. The food will fuel your body and provide a feeling of satisfaction. Feeling content will unlock your smiles and you are able to give them freely.
3. Positive thinking. When having a negative thought stop, acknowledge it and think of something positive. Thinking positively you are being kind to yourself and creating a feeling of self-confidence.
4. Acknowledge your resentments towards others. Resentment is the feeling someone is taking advantage of you or has been hurtful. I know we sometimes feel we have the right to be angry because the someone was mean, hurtful or uncaring. I once heard a statement, “Resentment is drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.” This sums it all up. Being resentful only hurt us. We are more important than the other person. What I usually do is have a conversation in my head with the other person and then picture a bright healing light aro